Rewards and celebrations

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Like probably 99% of people on this planet, I tend to postpone certain projects, features, tasks, and stuff. Sometimes it can be related to procrastination, sometimes it's just my brain preferring to work in the background during the day or night, sometimes it's just the fear of failure, and sometimes I just need to rest.

Being aware of the difference between these states can be tricky at times. Even if bringing routine and discipline helps, you can't control everything, and sometimes it's better to accept that what you want to work on may not be the ideal task your brain is currently able to handle.

You need to make sure that the goal you need to achieve to unlock your reward is high enough to be motivating but not too high, or you'll probably end up demotivated—or even ashamed (don't be so hard on yourself!). Of course, we're all different, and the concept of the comfort zone plays a key role here. You need to learn how your brain, energy levels, and motivation work together.

About the part that you're more able to control, I have made several changes to my process in the last five years. These changes include ensuring clear goals are set and using a task list². I have also learned to divide tasks, share proofs of concepts, say no when necessary, and finally, reward myself after launching projects.

Rewarding yourself

Rewards don't need to be something material, in my opinion. Even though I often treat myself to LEGO sets after completing projects, I'm guilty of that. There are no rules here; it's more about how the reward resonates with a specific part of you.

For example, I love listening to Hip-Hop vinyl records while cooking. I think there's something about engaging my senses that motivates me. I spend all day working in front of a computer, primarily using my vision sense. But by cooking meals and listening to music, I engage my other senses: the smell and taste of traditional pasta alla carbonara, the sight of an (almost) perfect plate, the feeling of placing the needle on the vinyl record, and of course, the beats, lyrics, and melody of "The Next Episode".

It's the same thing with LEGO sets. Instead of typing on a keyboard and staring at a screen, my hands are occupied with something tangible. There's no blue light hitting my eyes, and I feel at peace.

Celebrating with your loved ones

Celebrations can take various forms. For instance, you can host a dinner for your loved ones, enjoy a well-deserved spa day, take a weekend trip to a destination you've been longing to visit, or indulge in your favorite hobby or activity.

Sharing your success with others can enhance the celebration. Inform your loved ones about your achievement and express gratitude for their support and encouragement. This will deepen the sense of fulfilment.

Conclusion

Celebrating your victories is not just about the event itself, but also about recognizing your hard work, resilience, and growth throughout the journey. Taking the time to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments can bring satisfaction and motivation to keep pursuing your goals.